What is therapy for men?

Our slogan is: You have a mate for everything else. What about a Talking Mate? Therapy for men. So what do we mean when we say: therapy for men?

We start with an upfront conversation about the therapy options available, the cost, and duration of therapy. The conversation covers the issue at hand, what the ideal situation post-therapy looks like, and how we get there.

It is also about clarifying that there is no quick fix, there is only change. Implementing change might take a little bit longer as the problem we bring to therapy isn't always the problem. A lot of the times there are underlying dynamics and context we need to understand and also address. Therapy could cause some discomfort- we are creatures of habit and change isn't always easy.

We forget that men experience pressure from friends, peers, communities we belong to, and society in general. Our views of masculinity comes into play and it affects how we view our problems, ourselves, and the options available to us. We talk about the impact our views of masculinity have on us and how we express ourselves.

Therapy for men keeps in mind that men suppress emotions or distract by overworking, execessively gaming, use porn or substances. A lot of the time, anger and frustration are the only feelings we are familiar with and comfortable expressing. Somatic symtoms like a lack of sleep, aches and pains, decreasing physical and sexual health can be overlooked as a sign of mental health concerns. We also take risks without feeling bothered by the consequences. Therapy for men needs to include questions about these topics. As much as we try to live in our own bubbles, our problems don't.

Asking hard questions and challenging views and beliefs forms part of the conversation. Change happens easier when there is accountability and responsibility. The approach is practical, and solution orientated. Therapy for men can be like to talking to a mate with the professional skills to help. Someone who will listen and care, give practical input, and challenge you to change.

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I'm Werner Briedenhann, a clinical psychologist with thirteen years of experience as a therapist. I've worked in public health, substance rehab, and private practice. I created Talking Mate for men who want to start therapy and create a life worth living.

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